as an adult adult*:

(*defined by independent living arrangements and actual career, not a state of mind)

i will probably always live in an apartment.

i will never want to have matching furniture.

very little of my furniture will be bought new.

i will probably always live with a roommate.

i might live with a lover, but i'll probably never marry.

i would, however, have an informal sort of 'commitment ceremony,' with vows in front of a gathering of our loved ones. but nothing official.

i will never have children.

i will never be organized or clean.

but hopefully i will have good credit.

i'll be paying off school loans for the rest of my life.

i will be a vegan.

i will either be a gender studies professor, work for a women's political group, or do something with languages.

i will do something i love.

i might own a coffee shop.

i will travel as extensively as possible, perhaps moving often.

i would love to live abroad.

i will have at least three cats at all times.

i will have friendly neighbors who are willing to feed my cats as i have wild adventures around the globe.

i will only shop at local businesses.

in some form or another, i will be published.

my friends - my urban family - will always come first in my life.

if i love someone, he (/she) will be first, last and only a part of that urban family.

i will always put intellectual intercourse first, hugs and caresses second, and fucking a distant last.

i will play a mediocre guitar and write my own songs.

i will be fluent in at least one other language, and use it (them) actively.

i will never feel like an adult.

i will always continue growing, changing, moving.

forever and always
(if different from minute to minute)
la lauren

(ps, good to know:

soulmate calculator

your probability coefficient: 1.37745645556108E-04.

you have to meet 7,260 heterosexual males who are between 18 and 25 years old who is living in the united states or is willing to move there.

they also have to meet these ethnic requirement(s):
- any

they also have to meet these religious requirement(s):
- atheist
- agnostic

they also must meet these marriage status requirement(s):
- never been married

that's okay, i don't mind if i never find you. the probability of finding a friend is much higher, and i like friends better anyway.)